Cassidy…birth mom

  I met Cassidy this past year at a support group we both attend. It is for birth mothers and adoptees. Her story touched my heart so much. Her strength and life changing decisions left me in aw. She took some tragic moments in her life and changed things for the better...for her daughter...the daughter…

It’s the little things…

I got this text this morning from my daughter. I realize it is just a text. Especially in the world of devices, online communication and teenagers it doesn't seem like a big deal. But if you knew my daughter, you would understand how this small gesture made my whole week. (and it's a MONDAY!) My…

High school mom fears….

  My oldest daughter starts high school in a few short weeks. How can that be possible? Wasn't it just May 2001 when we were getting her from Korea? Wasn't it her first day of Kindergarten as she ran onto the bus with no fear? Wasn't it the day she lost her first tooth? Wasn't…

The Lingo Ate My Baby….

  It is funny how the choice of words people use can make a huge difference in what they say or ask. I have been humored, hurt and angered by the the wording and questions people to choose to use.  All along this journey of teen pregnancy, infertility and adoption, I have come to realize…

The Playbook…

There are playbooks for all sports, directions for electronics, assembly instructions for put together furniture and even instructions on how to use shampoo.  During my journey with being a birth mother and an adoptive mom I have seen so many books and articles about how to adopt, what to tell your kids, reunion stories etc. …

Teen Moms…

  When you discover your pregnant, you should be excited! You share the news with your significant other and family. There are baby showers, gifts, decorating a nursery and waiting with anticipation for that glorious moment when you hear your child's first cry. The first cry that says "I'm here!" - you are my momma!…

Finding Motherhood – My Messy Beautiful

You never for a moment think that there may be a different order to your life and that things may NOT go the way you see them. That perhaps God has his own plan for you.

Evil Twin…

 I have an evil twin. She looks just like me, talks just like me, has same mannerisms as I do and most people are fooled that it is me. I don't like my evil twin. She comes in out of nowhere - usually in the winter. She comes in and yanks the rug out from…

Don’t Stop Believing…

Journey sings "Don't stop... believing.." ah, something to ponder. Don't Stop Believing - I want to say that to my children. Perhaps that will keep them young and sweet. My 10 1/2 year old and 8 year old still believe - in Santa, the Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny....They both react differently.  Olivia (8) loves everything…

I hate ADHD, not my daughter…

Every morning is the same routine for my daughter and I...up at 6:30, Vyvanse mixed with applesauce for her...while it takes time to kick in - she is allowed to have a little free time while I have a cup of coffee and take a few minutes for me before the rat race of the day…